Compare yourself to others and dig yourself into a deeper pit of despair?
It is a bad habit all of us have to fight off, comparing ourselves to others.
When you look online or at pictures, when you are at the gym, when you go to the store or walk down the street, it can hit you at any moment.
Especially when you feel you are falling short, or not doing enough. Everything you see is proof that you are not good enough. It's proof that they are all better and more beautiful, more worthy of all the blessings.
She's athletic and slim. She's sleek and strong. She's married. She's single. She has a great job. She's popular. She has money. She runs faster. She can run! She has prettier hands. She has a blue top. She has a white top. She walks faster. She's at the beach. She has blue eyes. She has brown eyes. She likes to cook. Her kids are perfect. She loves working out. She can do squats! Whatever!
No matter what, you can't win and she can't win. It's not fair! To her, or to you.
It's a horrible lie.
It's an ugly mud pit.
How can she afford those clothes? How does she have the energy to make herself look so nice? I can barely find time to brush my hair some days! I'm not going to help her progress in any way whatsoever, she has enough blessings already! It's not fair!
We create this narrative all up in our own minds.
She's just a person. Just like you are just a person. All you saw was the outside at that moment in time. Did you see her trauma this morning, or the fact that she was worried sick all night? Did you see her battle to get ready for the day? Did you know she has pain and it's all she can do to walk without a limp?
Since it's in your own brain you have the power to change it. It feels like you are alone in that ugly quagmire but we all fight that battle sometimes in our own minds.
Here's some ideas, I'd love to hear what you do as well.
Remember your own strength's and how far you have come. You have your own beauty and your own gifts. There are people who look at you and think how does she do it, just like you thought about others. Don't forget you have your own strengths. The more you are aware of this while also being humble, the you'll be able to combat negative thoughts.
Keep going and don't give up. Even if you don't feel like it, it's going to be worth it to keep putting in the effort to be a better person, to be kind, and to get out of your own head and think about how others have their own battles too.
Be honest and talk about your feelings. You don't have to express it to the whole world, but have one or two people you trust, or maybe a small community (like those of us in the Nibbles Fitness Forum). Everything gets easier with practice.
Take better care of yourself. Stop putting everyone else first all the time. Exercise. If you don't like it keep trying until you find something you like, and even then realize that you adapt to it, just like drinking a fine wine which you had to acquire a taste for at one point in time.
Keep taking the time to eat the right amount for whatever your goal is. There is no magic formula. We all figure it out over the years of trial and error. There is no short cut or quick fix.
We are in this together ❤
“For you are God's masterpiece. He has created you anew in Christ Jesus, so you can do the good things he planned for you long ago.”
Roberta ns 2:10