A long long time ago, they told me I couldn't shoot a .45 caliber. I'm too small. My hands are too small. "You Can't".
The words ring in your head. "You Can't"
The truth is, it's hard. The recoil on the .45 is more than a smaller caliber round. So it's physics. The smaller you are, the harder it is to absorb that recoil energy. The more it knocks you back. The more your arm and hands get pushed back to the point where that movement can actually hinder the slide action which moves the next round in place and it can cause a jam.
I didn't know all that before I embarked on the journey of "Yes, I can and yes I will!"
It was a long time ago, but I spent hours every week at the range shooting thousands of rounds. My gun jamed and I thought something was wrong with the magazines. I got new magazines. I tried different guns. I had to finally accept that the problem was me.
Once I figured that out, it was learning that I could never go slack. I had to always lean into it, give it my all. NEVER go slack. There's no room for error. 100% focus. And practice, practice, practice. There's no room for saying I don't have enough time. It MUST be done. I had to put in all the miles.
There was a lot of frustration and doubt during those thousands of rounds and thousands of hours. There was wondering, were they right? Am I wrong?
I still have to put in the miles. It's a perishable skill. No slacking. No excuses. I'm put to the test in qualifications 4 times a year, every year, year after year.
A few years back I had hernia surgery and couldn't lift weights for a period of time. I qualified right before the surgery, and I qualified the next time having gone a little weak from not being able to lift weights. I qualified just fine, no jams, but every shot hurt my body due to the lack of strength and being so small. It made me realize how important lifting weights is to this job. If I don't want to be miserable, I must lift weights at least 3 days a week. There's no if's and's or but's about it. It's non negotiable. That means, doing it most of the time when you don't feel like it. Motivation isn't a FEELING. It's a KNOWING.
Even if you are a bigger person this still applies. The workout makes you better at your job. Oh in so many ways, this is just one tiny example.
My point is, yes you can prove them wrong. But you are going to have to put in the thousands of miles as well, and then you are going to have to put in a few miles every week to maintain.
It doesn't matter what it is that you want to do. You are likely to have your own version of overcoming. It might be mental, it might be physical, or it might be a little of both. It ebbs and flows along your journey. Do you want it bad enough, whatever it is, to keep putting in the miles? Do you want it bad enough not just to prove them wrong, but to use it to improve other areas of your life that might be even more important? Do you really KNOW what you miss when you quit or slack off?
How will you react the next time they say "You Can't"? Or, the next time YOU say "You Can't"?
And what makes you forget the KNOWING you once had when you first started something?
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