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Nothing to fear


I snapped this picture of Koneko one of our Scottish Folds this morning. He is often a Scaredy-Cat, but over time he slowly comes out of his shell. He has little safe zones where he runs and waits for us to go pet him there. Lately, on occasion, he comes up to us and rubs our legs and lets us pet him right there. It took a couple years so far for him to do that. When we first got him, he wouldn't let anyone get near him. It was rare to see is face like in today's picture, the most that anyone would see is his rear end and tail as he streaked off to a hiding spot.


Look how far he's come, to just sit there while I came up with my camera and snapped a quick picture of him. And of course I gave him some gentle rubs. He's a very gentle soul.


But, back to the subject of fear. Unlike us humans, Koneko doesn't have the same fear we do. He doesn't think about his career, his past and future, his mistakes, wondering what his life would be like if he made different choices, or whether or not the other kitties like him, wondering if he would be liked more if his ears were not so folded down.


As the events of this world has changed so much over the last few years, does it make you wonder what is really important and what isn't?


Even my hellish experience with Covid recently altered my thinking about what is important and what isn't. It did the same for Randy and our neighbors after they survived it.


We lose friends, more lately than ever to death for various reasons.


Our own mortality scares us so we avoid thinking about it. Sometimes it's hard to think about even when it's happening to someone close to us.


Yet, it's good to think about in a healthy manner, because it is how we measure the meaning of our life.


I fear it, but I think I fear pain more than knowing it will happen.


Right now, the pain in my body due to arthritis, broken sections of my back, and sciatic pain scares me. It think it's because of how it alters my life. Right now it's so bad I'm resting a few days. Those of you who know me know that's probably the hardest thing for me to do!


Being sick for so long with Covid taught me that my sciatic pain goes away when I do nothing physically, doh, but that's not the way I want to live my life. I need to find the right balance.


By the way, I'm practicing what I preach as hard as it is to do! I must eat a little less calories if I'm not exercising, thus meal planning matters more than ever. It's during times like right now that people throw their nutrition to the wind!


A couple of years ago, when my hips and legs started hurting so bad that I could no longer "train" or exercise with running, lifting weights with my lower body, twisting around with kickboxing or doing burpees, I was scared and depressed. These activities have been a cornerstone of my lifestyle for over 40 years.


I got a little depressed when I saw that others could do what I could no longer do. I got over it, and in time I filled it in with swimming, biking, adjusting my weight training to upper body. I adjusted and there was nothing to fear.


The restrictions and pain constantly remind me of my mortality. This along with all the events of the world, and experiencing Covid, reminds me of what is important and what is not.


People liking me or my blog, or whatever posts I might make on my private apps, doesn't matter. It used to scare me every time I wrote a post, or hit the button to send it to my small group of email subscribers, or even see that someone might have unsubscribed.


It really doesn't matter. It's not so important. The people who are important are those who choose to communicate with me and we provide mutual support to each other.


Do you think about what prevents you from doing what you really want to do? Does what others think about it bother you?


It's important to me to write my thoughts and the ability to communicate with others in the world who are honest and live with integrity. It's important to me to be on the same team with others who have similar values, and cultivate trust (which takes a long time).


So I'm learning not to fear, and adjusting my life accordingly. It's okay that we readjust as we learn over time what is important and what is not. Like almost everything else we do, it's a continuum and it's okay to keep evolving in this manner.


We are all going to die, because we have the incredibly opportunity to live!


Much of what the world values, are things that do not define greatness.


You already great because against so much adversity and pain, you choose what is important and what is not.


Even if you don't realize it, your choosing to live fully in spite of it all, and choosing what is important and what is not, makes you beautiful and great.


Choosing what is hard is often the way to get to where you want to evolve, rarely is it the easier path. Just like my choices right now to rest and eat a little less. No one ever said that avoiding being overweight would be easy. It is not easy. No one ever said any of our lives would be easy.


"Peace is what I leave with you; it is my own peace that I give you. I do not give it as the world does. Do not be worried and upset; do not be afraid.” ~ John 14:27

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