People truly believe their excess weight is the result of some kind of character flaw, such as low willpower or an unusual fondness for food.
They also might think are addicted to food in general, or more commonly to carbs or sugar.
This is not a character flaw, just about everyone loves food. You are not the only one. Even fit people who have found a way to lose weight or manage their weight love food too.
First, we need to stop acting like we really know what the problem. We assume the problem is that we love food, but likely it is not.
And we can change what we eat for breakfast or any meal and learn to love something we changed to make our health better. We adapt to other good things. I have learned to love the comfort of a savory soup for breakfast, or a sweet protein pancake.
Everytime we eat an excessive amount or something that we for some reason regret, we need to think about the problem and solve it a little more logically. Ask ourselves what, when, where, why, how?
Just saying that it's because we love food is not solving anything and also not anything special or unique.
Rather than beating ourselves up for eating that cookie or eating out instead of the lunch we took the effort to pack, let's ask some questions.
When was my last meal?
Was I frustrated with a situation at work and looking for something comforting?
Did I eat so fast that made it hard to know when I was full?
Was I overly hungry when I finally ate?
Was the food I packed so dreadful that I went out for pizza instead?
Am I sick and tired of the rules and restrictions I placed on myself?
Am I stuck in a rut?
Am I angry, hungry, lonely, tired, in pain, frustrated?
There is no magic formula, everyone has to find their own way, try things and it takes years to learn the process.
It is like an art. You are not going to just go on a diet and have it work in a month.
This is why I help people all year long and participate with others in the three eight week challenges we have every year.
Year after year.
I plan in my treats. I give myself a light at the end of the tunnel, every week, every day, as needed.
Last night I planned in the popcorn. Earlier I had planned out some simple protein centric meals that were delicious, simple, and satisfying, and the homemade popcorn fit into the plan.
I can do that any time I want. The same with the cookie, or pie, or pizza, or hamburger.
We can have almost everything we want. Just not every day, and probably not all at once.
And yes, I love food too! I call it a blessing. I've had to solve the problems in my life with eating too, and I'm still not perfect at it, but I've gotten good enough to maintain a healthy weight for 10 years, and help others, and with just as much stress as ever that also needs to be managed.
Just about everything in life has little problems that need to be broken down and solved, if we only take the time to do so.